Thank you Inky and Anita
I appreciate hearing the other side. After a few days of processing and getting various opinions from the rest of the bridal party, it seems it may have been a combination of oversight and sparing me. Everyone was someone “present” in her life. I live away and therefore was not considered “there” enough. I also am the only one who wasn’t recently married or engaged, so apparently I’m not “wedding positive”. Whatever the case, I listened to the things anita mentioned about value, and I definitely have all of those aspects in the positive of our friendship. So yes, perhaps it was just oversight.
Either way I was still extremely hurt in the moment. I deeply regret that I couldn’t not just suck it up and deal with it enough to stick out the entire wedding. I left just before the dancing/fun started. I’m sure the bride is not happy with me right now, and it will take time. I just wish I had known or been involved in some other aspect. Being sideline sucked and I was not prepared to handle that.