Anita,

I agree that some of those aspects don’t necessarily line up. My 28 year old sister has some deep rooted issues with my mother, however for the most part we all agree that we had a perfect childhood. If anything I believe a major issue of my mothers was being overly involved, and my parents being what today is known as the “helicopter parent”. Which is why I believe its taken my sister so long to get her act together, because my parents have never truly forced her to. Part of it is wondering if she’s even capable, but another part is never forcing her to just fail and learn on her own.

Since I was the youngest, they were less involved and thats why I was able to figure things out on my own better. (I think?)