Dear rosierouge:

Your clarification helps me understand better. It really is up to you and your brother, the two people who were abused as children, whether to take it further or not. It is not your other siblings’ business if they were not abused AND if the abuser has not abused other children not spoken for.

If you and your brother are the only ones abused by your oldest brother and if the two of you do not want to cooperate with the other sister’s initiative, it is your right not to.

Since your sister is bullying you in regard to your abuse, I would cut contact with her, if I was you. I too would be suspicious of her motivation, being greed (not an unheard of motivation!).

I wish you peace of mind and well being.