Hi summerain,

It sounds to me that the relationship has grown a bit stale. Even on his end if he’s indulging a presumed crush on your ex-BFF. I wonder how he reacted when you said, “Oh, we’re not friends anymore”.

With my DH he knows the password on my computer and vice versa because we have nothing to hide (after 20 years things like passwords are unspoken secrets/common knowledge LOL). How would he react if you asked him that? Seeing what your partner does online is like reading their diary or being the thought police though. You almost can’t get mad at their true feelings and thoughts. But if we’re hiding that part of ourselves we are also saying our partner is not safe on an emotional/psychic level.

Your BF is what he is. Yes, he can change, but he is one of those who revert back to their original nature (most do). You have to cast him loose or accept him.

Best,

Inky