Dear Anita and Tiny Buddha fellow supporters,

I know it has been a while since I have posted on here. Your posts and ideas are with me everyday – and as hard as it has been, I am able to now see clarity in what is right and wrong – and what toxic really is.

Something I do struggle with is, in the case of my mother she truly does have a mental disorder whether it be a personality disorder or something else – there is this component. She has no insight into her flaws or issues, like many “mothers with narcissistic personality disorder.” Regardless of how it is classified – I do know in many ways she is blind and has no insight. So at times my sister and I struggle, that if she doesn’t even know what she is doing – how do we process that? Sure we have tried and tried and tried and made ourselves sick and crazy by trying to explain things to her to no avail. I do see it doesn’t MATTER if what she is doing is on purpose or not, because if the outcome is that it has made us unhappy and miserable – that is what matters. However, just wanted to get your thoughts on this.