Dear Cath,

Anita’s post is very spot on about ” Too soon”.

There are two things to pay attention to

1. Look at his actions and not his words
2. Why you have come across a person like that? Again? Because there’s something more to learn here. Probably, something like how to recognize someone like that? or How to not get so deeply emotionally involved, so soon? And most importantly, how not to blame yourself for making a mistake and having a guilt about it?

I can point you in some direction but try to find answers .

1. How to recognize someone like that? Do you know yourself well? If Yes, then you would know what you are compatible with. Attraction and love is good but shared values are highly essential to have a healthy stable relationship.

2. How to not get so deeply emotionally involved, so soon ? Don’t let your deep desire run you. Wait for some time, observe and explore. Not when a person is at their best behavior, but when they are different from usual. See their action, keep your mind in check from running your dream stories. See reality. When you aren’t caught in attachment or other emotions, then you can see things very clearly.

3. How to not blame yourself and have guilt Making a mistake is called Being a human. Remember always that you have always done your very best in any situation given to you. So what if you made a mistake. We all make mistakes. I am still making a mistake and learning.

Acknowledge, forgive yourself and learn from it. You are strong, you can do this and come out to be far stronger. This time you don’t let people mistreat you. This time you stand up for yourself and be courageous to face pain and uncertainty.

Good luck
Brav3