Hi Bakedbean,

Usually when we (especially women) make noises about our needs not being met, there is residual resentment and hard feelings in the other person. I don’t know why, and maybe it’s just what I noticed. So I wouldn’t say anything directly.

For the book, I might give it back and simply say, “Thanks for thinking of me, but I couldn’t get into it.”

Then NEXT year, invite those friends, family, and OTHER people to get together at a restaurant or for drinks. I guarantee that some people will give you wrapped presents or gift bags. The empty handed friends will feel like heels. Bonus if you can get a sister or cousin or someone to ask them pointedly, “What did YOU get Bakedbean?”

We teach people how to treat us. Meaning, no unwrapped book gifts three weeks late with post-it notes.

Blessings,

Inky

• This reply was modified 7 years, 10 months ago by Inky.