Hi pollypeeps17,
What am I hearing is “stay out as it costs £30 for a taxi” – was the plan for him to get a train to you a definite and in place? Or was it a suggestion, with no agreement to it?

How come you cancel your plans? You should have time with your friends as well. You should have two lives technically, one with your husband, one with your friends. I guess in a way you probably resent doing that, but you do it to please him and in a way, maybe expect the same back from him?
You can’t worry about the future – him fighting. You’re not sure it would happen, and if it does, he needs to deal with the consequences, you can’t do the ‘feeling’ for him, he needs to feel the consequences etc of his actions, don’t take that on, that’s his not yours. I’m not saying you’re a bad person for doing that, I get that you care, but that’s not your stuff – those mountains you’re carrying you were only meant to climb 🙂

You said “At the start of Jan he promised we would talk more and he wouldn’t use the silent treatment because it upsets me so much and we would spend more time together.” from what you have said, he hasn’t spoken more and has used the silent treatment on you – so you need to start showing that respect that you have for yourself and telling me he isn’t doing what he promised. How many times has he done this? Because the more he does this and ‘gets away with it’ the longer it will continue.