Very interesting about the $$, anita… My grandfather (very wisely), left the grandchildren as the “remainder men” when he died. Meaning that my father himself doesn’t leave us anything. But once my father dies, the grandfather has it so that the rest goes to me and my sister (1/4 each).

So I will not get an inheritance from the father. But from the grandfather.

Dad doesn’t think anyone in the family, sister and step-siblings (except me, apparently) can make it “in the real world” so has them on an allowance (from his half of the inheritance).

I think/suspect that he knows I don’t need him (except when he’s dead??) and hates that on some level. But he loves playing the hero for everyone else. Maybe if I fabricate and illness or trauma he will gleefully put on his cape and spring into action, but I don’t want illness or trauma. :/

On my birthday he called (three weeks late) and announced as if he were a hero “I’m calling you on your birthday!!” as if that was the gift.