Hi Josh,

From what you are saying, I wonder why you think that as you don’t want to look at or involve yourself in another girl/relationship is an issue? You need to be complete and whole on your own, you don’t need someone else to do this for you and for you to be able do this shows amazing strength!  When we come out of a relationship for some reason there is a stigma that we must be with someone else or else we don’t equate to anything. Use this time to heal and grow.. I think witnessing some type of acceptance would help, here’s what I mean by that…

Acceptance. So the fear has to be present and you recognise what it is that frightens you. Really look at it (for example being on your own). Totally accept it in its most horrible state, feel the loneliness, call it loneliness. Say “I feel lonely” . Then the sadness that arrives “I feel sad”… Then the fear…”I will be lonely forever”. Etc. Totally accept the bad feelings. Accept that you feel lonely, don’t distract yourself from it. Cry. But once you start accepting it, the tears will dry up. Because you realise that the feeling is not a tangible thing, it just passes. But if you resist it, it will persist, and persist, and persist. Experience your emotions, don’t be afraid to fully absorb yourself in them, cry to God if you need to but most importantly, accept them. Anything you accept loses its power completely, because acceptance is making peace. Opposition is creating conflict. Opposing feelings creates conflict within you