Hi pussycatlover,

It isn’t wrong that you felt excited by building a connection with him. You’re human. You aren’t a fool. However, I notice you say how you “thought he just had a girlfriend” and that’s concerning in my opinion because as long as he is in a monogamous relationship, he is emotionally unavailable to you. In the future, it would be good to ask clear-cut questions and have better boundaries so that you know what is actually happening.

In addition, as he said he was flattered – he had knowledge of how you felt but did not reciprocate in the way that you had hoped. He continued speaking to you and giving you details when really, he should have been upfront and let you know that he was not interested in pursuing you.

I hope that you can heal well,

Lacienaga