Dear Yu:

You wrote that your boyfriend “refuses to associate or entertain (your father and sister) now and in the future.” In the next sentence you wrote: “Next week, my family and I are flying over to China to meet him for the very first time.”

– you mean, your boyfriend never met your father and sister? If so, what is his dislike based on (and what are his complaints about your father and sister, specifically)?

And if he refuses to associate with them, then when you and your family arrives to China, will he refuse to see them? What is the plan?

anita