If what you seek is happiness, someone who loves you, and someone who is forgiving of how you physically change over time, seeking a relationship based only on physical attraction to your partner is not the way. It seems that perhaps you need to re-evaluate what your true priorities are, and make a decision based on that conclusion.

The mind and body are always at odds, but one tells the truth, and the other one lies. Your physical urges tell you that the most important beauty a person has is what you see visually, and that in order for you to be happy, you must be visually attracted to your partner. But if we think about this, looks are not permanent, and they are ever changing. There are many things that can be done to change the physical world and physical body. We can change our clothes, we can change our hair, we can change our weight, and with modern cosmetic procedures we can even change each individual feature on our body.

But I ask you, do looks make you laugh? Do they make you smile? Do they love you for who you are? When you are alone, do they fill the emptiness? When you are sad, do they understand your innermost feelings, listen to them, and comfort you? what good do any of those temperal things do when your skin is wrinkled and your hair grey?

You may see a mirage in the desert, but if foolishly you decide to follow your eyes, you will perish in the hot sun, never having been able to find life sustaining water.

Physical beauty cannot be true beauty, because it is simply a mirage that fades away. True beauty is looking into the soul of someone who wants nothing but the best for you. Its the comfort of knowing that no matter how this physical world changes over time, and how you physically change over time, that someone sees the real you, and believes you deserve happiness. It is warm heartedness and forgiveness.

If you choose to follow only your eyes, you certainly will end up dissatisfied, because even when the senses are elated, the mind and soul will continue to hunger for something deeper.

Just food for thought.