Dear Anita,

Thank you for taking time, I appreciate this a lot. My parents divided work quiet strictly, but based on an agreement of both. my father said he’ll be the breadwinner and my mother will take care of us and the house. However, my father was always okay with her to work to if she wanted. She had a nanny, babysitters, cleaners (who would also make lunch), gardeners, you name it and was involved in charity and travelling for it. But somehow she felt not valued and is annoyed that my father doesnt help more at home even though he brings home the money and she gets all the paid help. It seems whatever he does is not good enough for her and she is still upset about having to bring is up “alone” even though I remember being alone a lot as a kid because she was either not there or emotionally not available (sleeping during the day, etc). Until today she accuses him because his family was so jealous of her life that they made hers very difficult by being unkind and talking behind her back. But I think a problem is that she always wanted to be liked by them instead of just enjoying life.