Dear Smutsik:

I would be glad you told me and upset that you didn’t tell me earlier, that you pretended. I would be offended. Then I will no longer have a physically intimate relationship with you.  I may continue a friendship with you if you sincerely regretted your dishonesty and made real efforts to be honest and authentic with me.

anita

P.S., A comment like: “I am not attracted to you because you are too thin” is offensive for the first part of the sentence, but as a whole sentence, it is preferable to: “I am so attracted to you because you gained weight!”

is what I am saying. You are in a pickle either way.