Dear Daniel Wong:

The easy things first: it is unhealthy for a person to work in an environment heavy with dust and dangerous chemicals. I wish no one worked in such environments. If you can quit- and you can- do quit this job today or tomorrow. And for as long as you lift heavy packages, pick them up correctly so to protect your lower back and otherwise prevent injury.

The next item: you don’t feel confident in your ability to make the correct choices in life and feel that your mother/ others are more capable of making good choices. Well, look at your mother’s life and others’- have they made good choices in their own lives? Are they well, emotionally? Evaluate the people for their ability to choose well in their own lives before you follow them blindly (and follow no one blindly…)

You would like to be a musician, a poet, a writer- this is a long term objective, endeavor. Take care of the practical business of today, tomorrow, and work on the long term goals daily, a little every day, being flexible to learn what your objectives mean, what action to take each day, each year; flexible to adjust your plans, your strategies, your expectations to reality, over time.

You wrote that you are a narcissist. What do you mean by that?

anita