Dear Newlifestartsnow:

You are welcome.

It is too bad she didn’t tell you what of what you said to her bothered her at any time during the friendship. If she was assertive, she would have told you at the time you said something that offended her, but she didn’t tell you at any time, including when she ended the friendship. Often enough, when a person is unassertive and they feel anger at a friend, let’s say, they don’t express it but the anger keeps building. Then at some point, following an incident that increases their anger yet again, they kind-of explode.

I don’t know if you did tell her offensive things, if you put her down, if you accused her of what she was not guilty for, if you were aggressive with her. For example, that last incident regarding the tutor, you became upset that she shared the info about the tutoring opportunity with another person with a better gpa. If you remember what you said to her in this regard, it may help me understand.

anita