Dear jimmy:

My suggestion, to solve your confusion, is to make a short list for yourself, writing what you need and want in a relationship. What kind of a woman will be right for you. Next, “interview” both women, the ex, and the new woman in your life. Over coffee, let’s say, in a coffee house, in a quiet enough setting, ask both (at different times) questions and listen to their answers. When you are back home, type their answers and compare those to your list. This way, over a week maybe, you will have enough information to evaluate and reach the answer to your question (the title of your thread).

anita