Hello!

I’m sorry you are still gong through all of this. He shouldn#t be asking you to keep the promises of not meeting anyone else. It’s such a shame that these things have to happen for us to realise when people aren’t right for us. I feel like you need to cut contact completely because by the sounds of it, too much has happened now to go back. My friends kept warning me that after so long things get to the point where there’s nothing you can do to go back. too much is said and done. I feel like you definitely need to cut contact though as hard as it is. hopefully the trip you are on will help you clear your mind and remind you that you don’t need that drmaa in your life.

As for me, a week has past now with no contact. I feel better for it but a part of me can’t believe that i haven’t heard from him. I was the “love of his life” we lived together, talked about getting engaged. i really thought i had a future with him but half way through our relationship i caught him texting his ex and arranging meet ups etc. i caught a lot of inappropriate photos on his phone and i just feel like he was never really ready to settle down. this infuriated me as i felt i had invested more into the relationship than he had and moved in etc gave up more for someone who never really put any effort in for me. When i decided to leave i genuinely thought he would chase after me and change but nearly 2 months down the line he has just been enjoying his life, drinking constantly with his friends and no doubt have another female (or more) on the go….. I know i am better off without him but it hurts my heart so much for weeks i was calling and begging and crying for him to come and see me and i got nothing other than blamed and told everything was my fault. i’m trying to plod on everyday to move on with my life but it’s so difficult i check my phone constantly to see if he has contacted me but nothing… i find it difficult to talk to new men because i keep comparing them to him. what do i do???