Dear Lester:

The two of you had a great time. Rock climbing when drunk? In a gym, with safeguards, ropes to hold you if you fall, not as dangerous as if you went to nature, attempting to climb heavy duty, steep rocks (hope you don’t do that!)

I like it that she held on to her clothes and that you didn’t try to get her off her clothes- that is an encouraging to-me aspect of the experience, in terms of hopes for a relationship, beyond what already took place.

As a human, a man, you need social interactions in general and a  loving relationship with a woman, specifically. It doesn’t matter how tall you are, how much you weigh and other factors- the need is there. She needs the same. You mentioned statistics. I suppose statistically taller, bigger frame men have more dating success than shorter, smaller men. Fortunately, it is only a statistic. For a taller, bigger frame man suffering failure in relationships, this statistic doesn’t help. For a shorter, smaller frame man enjoying success in a relationship, the statistic means nothing.

You only need ONE woman to like you, enjoy your company and be physically attracted to you.

If I was you, I would initiate a second date with this woman, sooner than later. Make the next date one of a shorter duration and sober. Maybe a coffee and pastry date at a coffee house during the day, have a conversation. Talk about what happened and otherwise.

You will need to balance your career life with a personal life. If dating causes you too much distress and is too much of a distraction, it is a problem. This is why I suggest contacting her sooner than later, so that if this is a no-go, you will be relieved from the distress and be free to focus on your job. If it is a potential go, take it slowly.

I hope you post again.

anita