Craig thank you for giving me a very powerful and helpful perspective. Your question caught me off guard and for a moment, my answer was, I don’t know. After giving it some thought, my answer seems to be a simple one, yet I am not sure if it is complete. My answer to what I understand “should” happen is liberation from holding on to anger/resentment from painful experiences. It would mean putting no value on a persons desire to hurt me. I also think that in my responding to painful experiences with anger and resentment means I am willing to engage in the negative moment, which puts value on that negative effort. I value your help and look forward to your thoughts.