It sounds as if you are allowing their feelings and attitudes create your reality. You have an attachment to the outcomes of their behaviors. Just live your life and don’t take on their baggage. I don’t mean do not help them. Help in things you can help.. run to the store, pick up take out etc. but do not take on their projections. You are a separate person and you are not responsible for their feelings or how they respond. You cannot carry their weights and let their burdens bind you up You have to remain free in your spirit to be who you are.