Dear Lacienaga:

The best way to deal with aggressive people is to not have them in your life. No contact whatsoever. If contact with an aggressive person is absolutely necessary, as in a work place, then have the absolute minimum contact with that person.

About doubting your previous evaluation of a person and making yourself available to get hurt again and again by the same person- maybe it will help if you type and print a note to yourself regarding Person A- how harmful he/she was to you and how you intend to behave around him/her. Then read it to yourself every day before seeing Person A, and stick to your intended behavior. Every time you doubt yourself, re-read the note.

anita