Thank you so much Anita. I really appreciate the welcome. Dear Wildoceanflower, I have been thinking about you, and wanted to log in and send you a cyber hug before going to bed. I hope you are okay? I know you don’t know me very well, but I think we have alot on common with this trying to get over a man situation, and it is one of the hardest things I have gone through in a long time.

I wish I had never met him. I think you need to be around a support group of people who are happy and will give you love in a therapeutic environment. I know that my 12 step programs have been a Godsend. They do not have meetings in the small town I live in, I am currently on disability, and don’t have transportation, so I do groups over the phone three times a week. I can give you the phone number to the central headquarters. I think the program will really be a Godsend for you. These are happy, loving people, most of whom have finished all 12 steps. I have a sponsor, you don’t have to have one, but mine has been there for me when I am crying over this man or lonely. There are conventions she takes me too, and everyone is happy and warm and smiling. They will hug you and be like your second family. This will give you a sense of belonging and purpose in life, and make you feel like you are moving forward. You can do the phone groups if they don’t have face to face meetings and the phone meetings are an hour long and held on different days of week. The central headquarters will help you find a sponsor (I think of mine as a life coach). She has 18 years of experience. They all have to meet certain requirements to become sponsors. If you want more information, just ask. Hope you are okay.