Hi Jamie…I hope that today brings the comfort that you need. This will allow you to move on in the direction that you choose. You said, “I miss him quite terribly…”  I invite you to consider looking at this in another light, that perhaps you miss what you once had, pre-ex status, that maybe what you miss is clouded by what you now have. You have quoted him as saying, “Sorry for the confusion…”.   Because he is “in a club can’t talk” what was/is the issue that he is confused about? There is a chance that you are correct too, when you quote him as saying he “he wishes me well,”. Maybe his “emotional connection” to you is retracted somewhat. It looks like one of those things where relationships end, but to those who do move on, quite often you hear things like, but we’re best friends now. I tip my hat to them because they were able to see their relationship no longer works and arable to make amends and move forward, no shame, no blame. In no way am I condoning what you describe of him and his actions. Like I said, maybe you miss what you once had. To be successful in our pursuit of a healthy, loving relationship fulfills a basic human need. To remain attached to what you once had, and sit by as a spectator watching and waiting and hoping for that “if only” moment, or that “I wish it was still us” dream restrains you from pursuing a loving relationship. He has been your “ex of 2 years.” IF you have been on the sidelines wishing and hoping and dwelling on once upon a time, think of all the possibilities you missed out on. It is perfectly fine to miss the memories of what you had. It is also fine that “he wishes me well. Allow the two to ride off into their sunset, thank him for the memories both of you created, and move forward and create the life you want. After 2 years it seems that you have hit that proverbial glass ceiling. I would like you to do this; tonight I would like you to go outside and look up at the stars. As you do this, think to yourself, “There is my ceiling.” Don’t be that person standing against the wall at the school gymnasium waiting and hoping to be picked to dance with. I am confident is saying that there are many people who would love to dance with you. Go pick that special someone, and dance.

🙂

Pearce