Hi Danielle,

I believe that people do grow up and grow out of things. But you’ve probably heard the quote from poetry “The child is the father of the man”. Meaning, you’ve actually seen his younger self, his immature self, his shadow side. No matter how amazing and perfect he is now, you know that not that long ago he was just a frat boy who banged the first dumb girl that would have him the minute you two broke up.

This reminds me of the old series Friends and the meme where Ross says (about once every third episode for seasons and seasons) “WE WERE ON A BREAK!!” to justify his “technically not cheating” episode. It just wasn’t the same.

The other thing is maybe he’s not The One. Once you are out of college you would naturally be separated anyway and your subconscious mind might be preparing you for that.

At any rate ~ yes ~ see a psychologist/psychotherapist if you want to.

Blessings,

Inky

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