Hi chaosed,

Perhaps you are going wrong when you focus on making those who hurt you suffer. I don’t think wishing harm onto others is good for our lives. I think the main thing is to focus on what you can do. You can lose weight.  You don’t have to make yourself miserable. I think we all want to see immediate changes, but losing weight can be a positive, gradual change. A smart 200 calorie decision a day, a walk instead of drive. Decide you want to be and take a step toward that person each day.

I have also noticed society is becoming increasingly shallow. It bothered me for a while, but then it had the opposite effect on me and made me not care anymore. I basically assume people don’t think very highly of me or my appearance, and then I still try to be a good person anyway. It helped me start to just forget about myself. Don’t let society change you. Become who you want to be.

I also noticed something pretty cool — the more I focus on other people, and not myself, the more positive changes are happening to my life. Maybe you can choose a person to help and focus on the good you are doing, and not on yourself and your problems.

• This reply was modified 7 years, 5 months ago by Mark.