Hi Free Moon,

I am sorry, I am replying late, but I am fairly new on here, but I have been reading all your posts, and feel things with your friend and your boyfriend have been going on long enough. From the sounds of it, nothing has changed, with their demeanor and flirtatious stuff with each other and I feel they are both are violating your boundaries and disrespecting you.

One post read that she was playfully hitting him on the back of his head. Calling him let names, etc, etc, yet, she continues with violating boundaries and what she is doing is flirting with him openly with him in front of you. When I was dating, or my friends date, and a woman comes along, they do not call him pet names and playfully hit him on the back of the head. Something is very wrong with this, and it’s gone on long enough. You are still frustrated and a resolution has yet to be found.

It’s time perhaps, and I hate to say this word, but it’s time for something different. Ultimatums. Let him know what he is doing, no matter what his excuses is disrespectful and you refuse to go out while this woman is in presence. I don’t understand, why he can’t just have a date with you, without her being around all the time. I don’t know, there are alot of red flags here. The further this goes on, the more upset and resentful you will become. What it all boils down to, is violating boundaries which they are both doing in front of you, it has gone on long enough and perhaps it’s time to re-evaluate your relationship, you deserve better.

• This reply was modified 7 years, 5 months ago by Eliana.