Hi Ray,

It sounds like you love him so much it is making you anxious. One good piece of advice I’ve gotten lately from “DARE: The New Way to End and Stop Panic Attacks” is to try to harness the anxiety to make you excited instead. Don’t make the anxiety worse by letting it overwhelm you. The author actually recommends asking “So what?” and asking for more instead of letting it overwhelm you.

It is obvious that this person is so important to you that you want him in your life until the end, but just be careful about idealizing him. It is so easy to turn people in our lives into these ideal images of who we want them to be, but alas, they are images. Try to make that image as realistic as possible so you are not causing yourself unnecessary anxiety. It seems like the root of that anxiety is losing him, so maybe it would be valuable to imagine that scenario and what you would do if that happens. Focus on what will give you hope.