Hi Sophie,

I read your first post post (and subsequent posts) but one thing stuck out to me in your first post, and I just want to make sure I am understanding correctly, because you were talking about your therapist saying sex is a powerful motivator.

I realized in my early years, when I was in my “infatuation” stage or “crush”. I felt an intense need to be held by the man. I felt this powerful chemistry like no other. And before I knew it, before I even got to know him, we made love. That’s when I got from being what I thought was a strong independent woman to someone who instantly was wild and crazy in love, because after sleeping with men, like many women you form a very close bond attachment. Men, on the other hand don’t think this way, they can sleep with a woman and not develop any kind of emotional bond with her. They just decide if they want to be “in a relationship with the woman” so, in learning that about myself, if a man wants to rush into things, I tell him the truth..”I’m sorry, but I Will form an intense emotional bond with you, if I sleep with you, lets get to know each other, and see how things develop” if they are true gentleman, they will understand and wait, if they just want a hop in the sack, I will never hear back from them again. So this might be what is happening, so wait to have any kind of intimacy until you get to know someone. Keep us posted.

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