Ale,

The phrase “letting go” can be interpreted in a variety of ways, but my understanding is to become the person you want to be (a controlled, non-impulsive individual), you must let go of fighting against yourself and your thoughts, a basis for overthinking.

Every decision starts from pure feeling, perhaps one of boredom, anxiety, sadness, happiness, nostalgia, intimacy, etc., and when paired with a thought an action is created. There is no mindlessness unless you have achieved a level of “self” through certain practices such as meditation and yoga, in which your choices do not require as much thinking since vices tend to lose their dirty charm when the mind is calm and focused.

As Anita stated previously, if you find yourself stressed, reaching for the cigarette box and lighter, beginning to think those sexual desires that will inevitably lead to a body stimulation, worrying about what your therapist said and what the “right” way of acting is, then take 30 minutes to refrain from doing anything hasty and walk, watch an interesting video or read/write a thought-provoking post, and allow yourself to find different ways to deal with life.

Know that your impulsion comes from the need to control your situation as quickly as possible, and if you give yourself a chance to feel the emotions you are currently feeling (good and bad), the smoke and orgasms will no longer be the crutches you need to stand.

Regards,
Sun