Hi Dawn R, i really appreciate your comments…i am doing my best to create the boundaries..like you said its difficult and i have had a really tough year this year and last. I am trying to find out what I want rather than what others want me to want, if that makes sense.

Hi Anita,

I had two really opposing days on the weekend. On saturday i went with a friend to a peaceful protest against oil drilling, it was amazingly calm and a really positive lovely thing to be part of.  Unusually there was very little negative to experience apart from standing out from the usual crowd on the beach the actual protest was incredibly inclusive and kind…i really saw a different side to humanity.

On Sunday, i met with my parents and had somewhat the opposite experience..we were supposed to go to an event, it was cancelled last minute and they didnt know (lately with them..everything seems to go wrong?) so we ended up going to a restaurant..where my mom started conversation by several negative statements (such as: did you hear about that girl that died?) this is very normal for her, then she asked my dad to give her some “compliments” about a book she has written, she then told me some unwelcome news about my ex…which hurt me a lot because i am doing my best to ignore my feelings for him.  Friends of theirs know my ex…and he had told them he hoped he could be friends….with my parents! So you can imagine how i felt.

What did my mom think that would achieve to tell me that? that SHE was special? beause thats how it really came across. i know she thought she was being supportive, saying he could go screw himself but really how it came out was ” he´s desperate to be my friend!”. There is something a little sick (competitive) about this..she has also claimed to me once that my sister´s partner had kissed her on the mouth when they visited them, that it came out of nowhere. I was really taken aback when she said that because that was a little far out, she had already bragged about previous partners being “inappropriate” with her. It didnt seem too likely but i dont know my sisters partner well, i know he was trying to be boyfriend in law nr 1 but that´s too far!! Who is telling the truth!?

is she making it all into a big drama? I think she likes to show off that she is wanted. To keep attention on her.

But to intentionally hurt me…i find it too much to take anymore.. i dont have the backing of another family member since my dad is oblivious to my mothers behaviour..and my sister is now pregnant so wants the “pretend” picture more than ever right now.

I guess this is just usual womens´issues….men look away!! you have it so easy!