Hi Lucy,

I’m just part of an old married couple, but I’m all “Here’s my password, whatever”. But when guys suddenly get possessive of their phones and change the password it makes me nervous.

One time my kid was all, “What’s your password, dad?” to look something up and he was all, “Give the phone to me” and I immediately said, “It’s *****.” He was all shell-shocked, as you perfectly described. Now, I never went through his stuff, but I did give him That Look (arched eyebrow with a smirk), like, “I know more than you think, but I’m too cool to say so, and you think you are so cute with your password protected phone.” It’s what you DON’T say!

What you could do is contact her and write (bonus points if it’s from his phone), “You know we don’t keep anything from each other, right?” with a wink emoji so she knows it’s you, or thinks it’s coming from both of you.

Now, she will either lay off him, and scuttle away, embarrassed, or confront him or tease him about it, in which case he’ll be put on the spot either way. (GOOD!)

If this blows up your relationship, GOOD. So be it.

For what it’s worth, I think he just likes the attention.

Good Luck,

Inky

• This reply was modified 7 years, 3 months ago by Inky.