Hi wildoceanflower,

Just wanted to add one more thing which is this quote from the book I mentioned about (Pema Chödrön – When things fall apart).

“Things falling apart is a kind of testing and also a kind of healing. We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.”

And my takeaway is that sometimes things dont really get solved and that is the ebb and flow of life (and the ocean). And it is creating a space for healing in which there is room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy. And you have created space for grief, for misery and trying to create space for relief and joy. So maybe rather than looking at changing the ebb and flow of the ocean, would it help to accept that ebbs and flows happen and look at what can you do to create space for other things to happen within that space of healing?

Just some thoughts which you can see if it works for you!