To be fair,

I know that my mother wants the best to me. She is also “scared” that I will turn out to be someone that people will have no respect for or gossip about. She is looking out for me by using my fear to make me somehow fight and be super careful for my future. She thinks that if I become someone, I will be very happy and will have someone taking care for my whole life.

Maybe her way to teach me is wrong, as you have mentioned but her way is proven to be quite effective, no?

If it weren’t for her teaching, maybe I would be a lazy person that settle for anything and for any guy. Maybe I will be living a completely different life.

I am open to any feedback and advices.

-Mina