Hi Mina,

Guys are opportunists. A guy will barrel ahead and be told “NO” 99 times in as many days only to have one girl (finally!) tell him “YES”. For that one “Yes”, the 99 “No’s” were totally worth it! Hey, it is a good strategy. If a guy never dared to ask someone out because of poor timing, the rightness or wrongness of it all, or past rejection, the human race might have died out long ago.

So no, the short answer is they really don’t respect us. It is disgusting. I’ve been married for 22 years and they act like my  husband doesn’t exist. Unless of course he’s physically right there with me, then SUDDENLY I am treated with respect!

And I hear you about the church thing. I have had certain places of worship “ruined” because I really don’t want to run into certain people. It stinks. If you want to totally bypass this one person, go to the early morning service. He will be less likely to be up then. Also, join a church group that he’s not in at all. Bonus if it meets outside of the actual building. Or, try a different church. There is no shame in “church shopping”.  Settle on one where you are largely left alone.

Good Luck!

Inky