Dear Cinnamonhamster,

This sounds like you have a poor self-image and you, like you said, seek validation from others. Many people depend on you, but they do not take the time to tell you how much you are appreciated. What you are is beautiful and abundant. Your parents sound like they are too occupied with their external lives to realize their little girl just wants their attention and to see the beautiful, amazing girl that has so much to offer the world. That being said, you are scared to show the world who you are, because you are afraid it may not be good enough to warrant people’s attention. And do not think that this is an “inappropriate” reason to be sad. You have every right to be sad, and you just need the appreciation you deserve.

Now, I would suggest speaking with your parents about how you feel. No matter what, they are a big part of your life, and affect you in many emotional ways. Communicating your sadness may make them realize the burden they place on you by having you take care of your sister and doing things around the house a lot. That being said, you should also place some appreciation in yourself. You live so fully to other people, you sound like you forget to give yourself the same love and kindness you give to others. Life has given you friends and taken them away and I promise that a person like you will not make a million friends, but rather make a few deeply connected friendships. You will find friends who truly appreciate you, just keep on being the kind soul you are.

Cinnamonhamster, your sadness is very real, and your reasons for being sad are not inappropriate. Talk to your parents about your sadness and do not forget to give yourself some love, because you absolutely deserve it.

Pat