I might be a lttle vague today in the middle of a lot of realness so I apologize if some do not understand my posts. The vagueness comes from how I am feeling but I have to express it because I generally have no where to turn when I feel this way. My feelings are valid regardless how people view the reasons for them.

I feel attacked right now, by a negative energy, by people who don’t want to see a woman like me succeed. I actually feel more attacked by women rather than men right now. Women who don’t like other women thinking for themselves and daring to be proud of who they are. I am talking about women who speak only to gain points from men and men eat it up. I feel attacked by those women and since I believe most men and more than half the population of women in the U.S. live by this code, I feel outnumbered. We are in such a climate right now that even the women I have loved and admired for rising above the attacks feel outnumbered….and I can’t even live vicariously through them anymore.

I feel these people are laughing at me and rejoice in my discomfort. We really are living in the age of the bully regardless of how many anti bullying programs there are because no one is allowed to tell a bully off anymore. Since I was growing up bullying was something that people thought needed to be addressed so it made it more difficult for people who wanted to to bully in a direct way so they slowly became more passive aggressive. Turning the tables where they could bully and somehow make themselves out to be the victums.

Let me try to make this short. Oh I wish I could talk…but anyway. I used to have a roommate in a comfortable apartment. I loved my room and kept to myself. I was friendly but I wasn’t looking to be friends. From my personal issues I probaly cried here and there in my room but I was never loud and I never involved my roommate. She came from a beautiful area just outside if the city and laughed at me when I pronounced a word that sounded funny to her. She asked me if I liked a certain pop star whom I regarded as a bully and I answered that she simply reminded me in style of the person whom I felt she was bullying. I just said well she reminds me of _______ and my roommate was silent. I wasn’t surprised my seemingly stuck up roommate didn’t like the pop star who I thought was being passive aggressively bullied. One day she saw I had candy and insisted that I use one of her bowls to keep them in so I said thank you. A little while later she was wondering where her bowl was and I reminded her that she leant it to me for my candy and said “Would you like me to bring it out for you and she said “no no.” A little while later she took it out of my room and left a note saying that she did not mean that I could keep this bowl. I didn’t want the bowl in the first place and when she inquired about it I wanted to go right in my room and give it back to her but she insisted “no no.” So now I guess she feels in the position to claim I was purposely keeping the bowl from her. If you look at entertainment and sadly politics right now these are the people that rule the world now.

If I expressed any distress over people manipulating me she came to the conclusion that I had to go and insulting me in various words and actions creating a runaway train of judgement that I couldn’t stop. That I can never stop…why?…because I cry in public. When I look back on my life and what I have observed I have been treated worse than a criminal and with so much anger for voicing my opinion and crying in public. I have been hurt by this as well as fascinated by it. I had no lease so she could dump me out and treat me with contempt because she found it odd that I hardly came out of my room. That is what she informed my sister who knowing me didn’t think very highly of my roommate. My sister would ofyen tell me not to cry in front of people because my family knows me but others do not. I personally don’t look down on people who cry in public but as I have learned the hard way in life, I am from a different planet.

So I am forced to move back in with my sister from a place where I paid my rent on time, kept my room and common areas immaculate. I found another roommate who moved after two years and then I moved into my current situation which I love. Well a person whom I live with that I get along great with who has so much admiration for ne…her boyfriend asked me to doing some eork for him that involves me going to his apartment. After I say sure he informs ne of where his apartment is and it is in the same complex and one building up from where my fprner passive aggressive roommate lives. I thinl this former roommate already badmouthed me to an employer and that employer coincidently couldnt use me anymore shortly after she came in the shop. I do not want anything to do with this woman because I feel she wants to spread negativity around me. Of all the places this guy could live it had to be there. I already said I would do but backing out would mean me having to explain why and I do not want to lose the afmiration of my landlady. I also dont want to go there and this woman seeing me and somehow bad mouth me to this guy. Like I said I understand coincidences buf I have toomany “coincidences.” I am minding my businesd, trying to improve my life and then some negativity from my past tries to trip me up. I didn’t want this, I didnt look for it but it found me as usual. I dont know what to do.

I even feel the guy on some level wants to trip me up…and when it comes to guys it doesn’t matter how much another woman admires you. I didn’t ask for any of this and now I am stressed out on my day off. I should be doing something fun right now.

Any advice?

• This reply was modified 7 years, 3 months ago by Lisa.