Dear BeatifullSerpent:

It is very possible that you were very scared as a young child, as children often are, and there was no one to comfort you, to calm you down, to explain things to you. You wrote about your mother: “mother that wasn’t really there for me”.

Doesn’t this mean that she wasn’t there for you when you were scared?

As children we need to feel safe. When there is no one to make us feel safe and we are scared for a long time, we grow up fearful, anxious. Anxiety limits us, limit our intelligence, our ability to pay attention, our ability to form intimate relationships, our ability to function well and our motivation.

I hope you post again with your thoughts and feelings.

anita