Hi H,

I’m not going to tell you to leave him..but I do think professional therapy with a trusted Psychotherapist would be very beneficial to get to the root of both of your anxieties. Without this, you have limited choices and a very uncertain future with this man, unfortunately. You can continue to wait and wait for him until he changes, but it looks like you have done this and nothing has changed on his end, stagnating the relationship, or you can choose to be miserable and unhappy, always doubting, anxios, controlling, etc. If it were me, I would choose the Psychotherapist. Best of luck. x