Dear H:

You wrote: “i’m not saying they didn’t love me. they just didn’t show/say it”- for a person to be loved, that love must be shown. If it is not shown, not expressed, then it … fails delivery.

It is like you ordering pizza and it is never delivered. You don’t get to eat it if it is not delivered. Maybe the delivery driver intended to deliver, maybe he thought: I really want this customer to enjoy this pizza. But if the driver fails to deliver the pizza to you, you don’t get to taste it, to smell it, to eat it, no matter his intent, his thoughts and his feelings.

No wonder, to me, that you are so jealous in the context of a romantic relationship, jealous at the guy paying attention to anyone else: you got so little loving attention, that you are afraid every bit of a loving-like attention he gives someone else, is taking away from you.

It is also not strange to me that you are jealous and distressed only in the context of a romantic relationship. It triggers the distress you experienced in the context of a relationship with your mother and/ or your father.

anita