Anita

My partner always got great grades at school without studying and both his parents think he’s smart.  Same with me, I think he’s really intelligent and couldn’t say differently even if we were argumentative because it would be untrue – plus luckily we don’t name call or attack each other’s personalities.  It’s not a trigger point or self esteem thing as he’s a very confident person with a great job

If it was to divert attention ? that’s a scary thought.  I’m hoping he has nothing to hide.  But he did hide a little at least (by being ready for her phone call so early, and by saying he only contacted her 1 or 2 times)

I made sure I kept my voice calm when I asked him if he was having an affair  It would have been so much better if he’d comforted and reassured me instead it’s created more doubt.

The only things I know for sure, after talking with him later, is he will continue to keep things from me as he’s told me he doesn’t need to say anything. And the other is I  feel insure now in our relationship, especially as I value truthfulness and openness, but I don’t know if I’m expecting to much ? as I’m always so open with him