Wait! He punched a hole in the plasterboard? And you had to patch it up? What?
I think he’s pissed that he got found out about this quasi-emotional affair. (Let’s just call it that)
How about you call the secretary? Apologize for your DH calling her, send her a holiday gift for their baby from “both” of you and bonus if you get her husband’s phone number and talk to him. Ask her husband over for dinner. It is not unusual for bosses and their wives to entertain secretaries and their spouses. Her hapless husband will say, “Guess what! Mrs. Your Boss invited us over for a holiday get together! Isn’t that great?!” The secretary will quail and murmur something about lack of child care. She will be SO embarrassed and uncomfortable!
Then you inform your bright but not that bright DH: “I apologized to your secretary for you calling her all the time, I sent them a holiday gift for their baby from both of us, and I talked to Mr. Secretary and invited them over for dinner/holiday party! And if you don’t like it, plaster your own dam drywall!”
No matter if the dinner happens or not, smile benignly on your perch from The Wife’s Power Position!
Lather, Rinse, and Repeat as needed.
Inky
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