Dear Heartbrokengurl:

What the psychologist told you is the same as the input I gave you as well as other members, on your various threads. You wrote that it was “eye opening”- what was new, to you, about her input?

The therapy I believe you should have, as I indicated in recent posts to you on this thread, is not about the man or men being unavailable. It is about you being unavailable in a relationship. Your unavailability is about you not being relaxed enough to function effectively in a relationship with a man, a man who is or may be available.

You are too anxious to go beyond your worries of him (whomever he may be) not liking you, not calling you soon enough, and so on, and then reaching out for temporary comfort (any word will do, any sentiment), followed by repeat anxiety.

anita