Hi Jenny Lynn,

John is what I call a Perennial Bachelor. Don’t worry about him finding someone else. He will, he has, and he is. All three women at once, usually. He loves having a harem. He loves that they kind of but not really know about each other. He plays up their birthdays and holidays to keep them around. But they are never his on a day-by-day level.

Glen is the opposite. He is doting, he is there. Unless it’s your birthday or a holiday. Then he forgets/”forgets”. But you can’t quite break up with him because he is there the other 360 days of the year, right???

Both men are giving the women in their lives the message that they aren’t special. It’s an ego thing.

Move out, get your own place (to have! No more moving in with someone!), dump Glen, don’t seek out John, and date someone who is there for you every day INCLUDING holidays.

Best,

Inky