Jen,

It seems the way you talk about him is that you are still hanging on to be his girlfriend.  Does being “friends” mean all the emotional and physical intimacy without the sex?

I see his fear of commitment, i.e. true intimacy is something that cannot change overnight or just saying that he will change by himself.  Such issues usually are deep seated ones that take years of therapy and work on themselves.

I suggest in order to enhance your world of intimacy is to develop emotional friendships with others, men and women.

Make sense?

Best,

Mark