Dear RoxySue:

You are welcome. You don’t want to be a secret, understandable. He is not available to be the man you need him to be: to initiate seeing you, to pursue you, to want you in his life exclusively for the rest of his life. What you are faced with is a man who has his own business working on it six days a week, while having two adult children living with him, one with a serious drug problem, these and other consequences of a marriage that has been dysfunctional for a long time, long before the separation.

I hope you find a man who is available, able and willing to initiate seeing you often enough, to introduce you to the people in his life, to want to spend the rest  of his life with you.

anita