Brenin,
The title of your posting is “Toxic Marriage – Need Advice” You wrote that you feel very trapped and depressed when you are with your wife. Plus you have given an extensive list on what things your wife has said and done that are negative, i.e. criticisms, emotional neglect. All that says it all don’t you think?
Your phrase “Happy wife, happy life” rings false. You have admitted that you are not happy and not living a happy life.
The way you describe your life with your wife sounds like you have given up your power to her. You have conceded decisions concerning how to help/raise your son and probably a host of other things in order to keep the peace.
Is that a way you want to live? What do you want?
You asked for support and the title of your posting is asking for advice.
It is clear that the marriage is not working for you and probably is not helping your children. Advice? Leave so you can have breathing room to be happy and to set an example what being happy looks like to your children.
Mark
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