Dear lost in the wild:

You are welcome. To heal you have to do all you can to prevent further abuse, to protect yourself. To protect yourself, do all you can: the police, the tourist visa administration (to prevent her from entering your country), securing your home, locks and such, a way to open the door partially, while lock is in place, so it is impossible for a person to push their way in, and so forth.

If you do all this, and you changed your phone number and blocked her from communicating with you otherwise, you shouldn’t be seeing or hearing from her again for a long, long time, long enough for you to be and feel safer.

Will you let me know when that happens?

anita