Buddi,  It is tough when two parents have such different views on how to raise their children.  Your son is not being abused. Is he?  He is having an emotionally hard time being not good enough for his father.  He may benefit having someone help him to be able to cope and strengthen himself emotionally.  Life hands us emotionally and physically challenges.  You cannot protect him from it all.  As a parent, the best thing you can do for him is to help him to cope better with those challenges.  Give him the tools to be stronger emotionally.

Mark